By David Wuya, (Nasarawa State Correspondent)
Mrs. Felicia Aboki, a woman who allegedly divorced her 18-years old marriage has finally revealed why she divorce her husband to marry Prof. Allanana Otaki, the immediate past Commissioner for Agriculture and water resources in the government of Abdullahi Sule, governor of Nasarawa State.
Mrs. Felicia Aboki, narrated her side of the story while in the house of Dr. Aboki. She said her husband's health was becoming unbearable which was the reason she went to court to divorce him.
Her words: "Despite his health condition which he hid from me for years before I later found out, Mr. Aboki was suffering from Azoospermia.
"Azoospermia is a condition where a man can't father a child because there is no life or motility in the sperm production in his semen. Having known his condition, I stood by him. I didn't cheat on him just so I could have my own children. I insisted he sought medical treatment which he refused. How many women would sacrifice their joy of being a mother to such a selfish man for 18-years?
"Instead of appreciating my sacrifices, all I got from him in return was his cheating, womanizing, constant battering, and threats of how he will kill me if I tell anyone he was responsible for our childlessness. I bore the shame and scorn of barrenness alone for 18 years. When it wasn't any fault of mine. Yet, I still stood by him. Very few women could do this and this is what I get as payback.
"I have been passing through a lot; emotional neglect and isolation have become part of me for the past 18-years. It is still in the course of the union that I developed high blood pressure as a result of his maltreatment. He despises my feelings. Yet, I have been bearing his ill-treatment all these years.
"I was unhappy in the marriage, but fear alternatives. He consistently neglects my own needs for the sake of his. Very selfish, and egocentric man. He makes a lot of sacrifices to please other people out there just to look good but can't reciprocate such gestures with me.
"In 2020 I came to terms that accepting the abuse isn’t my responsibility anymore. That I actually deserve better. Sadly, it took a whole 18 years to realize I wasted my youth living with a monster like Mr. Aboki, my ex-husband. Immediately I left him, I stopped taking BP drugs which means, he was leading me to an early grave.
"On several occasions, I have tried to help, but it’s unlikely, he won't break this pattern of behavior without professional counseling. This, he wasn't ready to seek the desired help he needed.
"I disengaged and set personal boundaries from him. I exited the marriage by cutting all ties with him. I made it clear that it’s over between us and didn't look back. The day I was leaving his house he offered me the sum of N10,000 for my transportation. And in my culture where I came from, once a man gives you transport to leave his house, then indeed it is over.
"I didn't stop at that, I decided to make it official by taking the matter to court asking for the dissolution of our 18-years of marriage. The next hearing is slated for 15th September 2021. I left his house on the 4th of November 2020. And then filed for divorce on the 20th January 2021.
"I had to consult a therapist who showed me a healthy way to move forward. Because Mr. Aboki used to claim that I am useless without him. No man will ever found me worthy. Seeing that I am doing just fine without him, he decided to go dirty.
"If you check the pictures he posted, you all will see the difference between me of then and me of now. Going to social media means he is actually fulfilling part of his threats of calling the media on me. I want to ask Nigerians not to take him seriously because he is a drowning man.
"Fellow Nigerians kindly disregard that post by Mr. Aboki. It's all fake, fraudulent, and maliciously targeted at slandering me. He promised he will do everything to destroy me. This is a case of calling a dog a bad name to hang it. As a result of so many threats from Mr. Aboki, I want it to be on record that if anything happens to me, Mr. Aboki should be held responsible.
"I can go on and on. The storyline of solid 18 good years wasted being his wife can never be written in a day, not even a week or month. I am his victim here," she narrated. NNL.
